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Bullying is happeing everywhere in the workplace.

but It is a very interesting research result conducted by he University of Southern California, challenges previous assumptions that abusive bosses are solely driven by ambition and the need to hold onto their power.

They found that the combination of incompetence and empowerment brought out the worst of human nature – and led to bullying in the workplace.

The more incompetent managers thought they were the more aggressive they became to people who worked for them, the study discovered.

One boss, who felt over his head, was even prepared to to sabotage an underling's ability to win a prize.

Another test showed that there was a way to disarm a bullying boss – by flattering them.

Bosses who were told they were good at their jobs were less aggressive, even if they started out thinking they were not that good.

However excessive flattery — long the refuge of the frustrated subordinate — may not work in the long run because it might ultimately cause the boss "to lose touch with reality".

"Incompetence alone doesn’t lead to aggression," said Serena Chen, associate professor of psychology at University of California and co-author of the study.

"It’s the combination of having a high-power role and fearing that one is not up to the task that causes power holders to lash out. And our data suggest it’s ultimately about self-worth.”

Mr Fast said that there was never an excuse for bullying – even if it led to so called "creative tension".

He said: "Is it possible that bullying can create a culture of fear that, in some cases, leads to profits? Perhaps in the short run.

"But the psychological and organisational costs associated with this approach are not worth it as far as I’m concerned.

"There is certainly a place for calculated expressions of anger or even harshness from time to time. Sometimes that motivates people to get back on track. But there is a line between an occasional display of anger or sternness and the abusive bullying that often takes place in organisations."

He said the only way for a boss to permanently stop bullying was to either work hard enough to improve their competence or to resign.

Recently, I am busying with the work and don’t have time to write something. but several days ago, find a interesting paragraph writtn by financial time bloger XU Zhiyuan, which is about the identity of ourself:

"Most people are other people, their thougts are someone else's opinon, their lives a mimicy, their passions a quotation.

By using a little inteligence he can easily classify the passers-by according to type; he can guess their social status, their habits and their occupation. A fleeting moment reveals their childhood, manhood, and old age, and then they vanish. A purely physiological study of one particular passer-by in preference to another is meaningless. If one penetrates into the minds of these people, one discovers utter nonsense. They are totally unaware of the fact that nothing is their own, that everything is part of their historical formation--their occupations, their clothes, their gestures and expressions, their beliefs and ideas. They are the force of inertia personified, victims of the delusion that each individual exists as self.”

Look forward to the concert of Edvin Marton in shanghai.

1. 很多事物的复杂性，偶然性是必然的， 试图用简单的思维去解释，指向的往往是危险的方向。更明智的方式是，去抓住其中的重点，而不是全部，这是在我们力所能及的范围之内的。胡子眉毛一把抓，是愚蠢的；面面俱到, 是不现实的。

2. 对很多事物的认知，会经历以上三个不同阶段：

第一阶段：看山是山，看水是水。

第二阶段：看山不是山，看水不是水。

第三阶段：看山还是山，看水还是水。

3. 不是我不明白，这世界变化快。

每个出现在我们生活旅途上的人, 本身是一种缘分, 也是一个风景. 当我们与之擦肩而过,回望背影, 可以分成四种类型:

1. 先易后易型: 这种属于一拍即合型. 大家或情投意合, 或一见如故, 或相互吸引, 或气场相符, 这样的人一旦相遇,就如两个环一样,扣在了一起, 很难在分开. 大家是会成为兄弟,或知己,或伴侣. 这种类型的人,可遇而不可求.

2. 先难后难型: 这种属于性相远，习相远型, 大家相互交流, 或话不投机半句多, 或欲辩已忘言, 或鸡同鸭讲. 这样的人会成为陌生人, 或仇人, 或冤家. 这种类型的人, 可远观, 而不可亵玩也.

3. 先易后难型: 这种属于浅尝辄止型. 大家可能由于利害, 或者相互的掩饰,在开始会走的很近,但是,随着时间的推移或空间的变化, 大家有意或无意会变得疏远, 面目会逐渐变得模糊不清, 然后相忘于江湖, 有的甚至会反目成仇. 这样的人, 相逢一笑泯恩仇.

4. 先难后易型: 这种属于厚积薄发型. 这种类型最有意思. 大家可能由于相互缺乏了解和信任, 互动很少, 但是, 慢慢地, 交集会自然而然地汇集地越来越大, 共同点越来越多舒展开来, 相互的信任也如奇妙的化学反应地发生, 从量变引起了质变. 这样的人, 众里寻她千百度,那人回首,却在灯火阑珊处.

      昨天晚上,突然接到两个朋友的电话, 两人都远在他乡, 一年多没有音讯.

      一个在做人民教师, 朝九晚五, 为着五斗米而折腰. 父亲得了病, 正在接受治疗, 自己准备和多年的女友结婚, 暂时无法买房. 生活(引用他自己的原话)就像白开水一样，淡而无味．

　　另一个在创业，自己贷了七八十万，在建筑材料行业中虎口夺食．一个人没日没夜地在外面拉客户，跑关系，大把大把地花着自己的银子，还得陪笑脸，陪小心，生活（也是引用他自己的原话）真的是比三陪小姐还不如．

　　一个人每天晚上陪着学生在晚自习中度过，一个人每天晚上陪着客户在灯红酒绿中度过。

　　一个人最大的希望是能买得起一套房子，有一个家，父亲的病情能好转起来；一个人的希望是明天能拉到一个大单子，狠狠地赚上一票，一夜暴富．

　　一个人想跳出来，做一番事业，可是有点不舍于目前稳定的生活，一个人想退出去，过正常人的生活，可是留恋于金钱的巨大诱惑。

　　其实，每个人左右着自己的生活，却又被生活左右着。

　　其中甘苦，如人饮水，冷暖自知。